The Better You Get at Feeling Good, the Worse It Feels When You're Out of Whack

The more I keep how I feel in focus, with the aim of feeling good above all else, the more uncomfortable it feels when I'm out of whack.

And honestly? I love that.

Because as you learn and practice being in alignment (aka feeling good regardless of your present circumstances), your natural set point rises.

Feeling good becomes normal.

And when you've spent less time in stress, overwhelm and negativity, those feelings don't feel normal anymore.

They feel uncomfortable.

Not because anything is wrong.

But because you're used to being in a better feeling place.

When you still get stuck in a funk

Sometimes, though, you can still get stuck in a funk.

And in my experience, it doesn't need to be the end of the world.

Eventually, you simply get sick of it and become ready to move through it.

I had this exact experience not long ago.

On the outside, I looked fine.

But on the inside, I was at war.

I knew I was off.

And unlike most of my off moments, this one hadn't blown over.

It had just hung around like a stinky pair of socks.

So when I finally got fed up with what was going on inside me, I did five really specific things.

1. I felt it fully

I didn't push past what was going on underneath, nor did I wallow in it.

Instead, I sat with it fully, without judgment.

The crazy thing is, when you do this, you actually move through it so much faster.

Because the minute you stop fighting with the feeling and simply let it be, you loosen its grip and it starts to dissipate.

2. I stayed open to feeling better

I didn't try to force it or think my way through it.

I simply allowed for the possibility of feeling better, even though I had no idea how.

Unsurprisingly, as always, I was led to something that shifted my energy.

And, as usual, it didn't come from sitting there thinking about it.

3. I moved my body

Instead of getting caught up in the thinking, analysing or, worse, pretending I was fine, I moved my body.

Importantly, I let the movement be fun and easy so that I could actually let my energy shift.

I love doing this because it gets me out of my head and back into myself every single time.

4. I followed the inspiration

I let myself be led by the first thought that felt good, even if it came in the form of relief.

Learning to identify these thoughts can be a little tricky because they often get hijacked by fearful thoughts, and we all have different patterns in how this shows up.

But over time, you get better at recognising the thoughts that feel lighter and learning to trust them.

5. I let it be fucking easy

If it felt hard, I simply didn't do it.

And for the things I had to do (because life, right?), I did my best to line my energy up before doing them.

There is absolutely no value in forcing yourself to do something from a negative place.

So either line yourself up positively to do it…

Or don't do it at all.

It's a skill

All of this is a skill.

And the best part about skills is that they can be learned.

I've been practicing this for over six years now, all while raising young children.

So if you're doubting yourself, know this:

You probably don't need more information.

You simply need a way to tune into yourself.

Because the better you get at feeling good, the less willing you become to stay anywhere else.

And honestly? I think that's a beautiful thing.