Overthinking Is Disconnection

Thinking things through feels responsible because you're doing what you've been taught to do: be prepared.

But what if I told you that this is what's keeping you in a pattern of inaction and a near constant state of meh?

I know it seems radical at first, and honestly, I wouldn't have believed me either all those years ago.

But let me tell you now, as a reformed overanalyser… it's not serving you at all.

I used to take pride in my ability to think things through, analyse the situation, prepare for any outcome (mostly the negative ones), and use all that mental power to make the best decision.

The thing I've learned now is that when I'm in that state of overthinking, I'm actually most disconnected from myself — and consequently, the right action to take.

Let me back that up for a second.

The feedback you're ignoring

When I'm "thinking things through" (overthinking disguised as sensible), I'm actually disconnected from myself.

Why?

Because we have these amazing things called emotions, and they are giving us real-time feedback about whether something is right for us.

Think about it this way…

You know when you've had a gut feeling about something you feel you need to do?

That's you being connected to your true self.

Have you ever then given that idea so much thought that you ultimately talk yourself out of it? Maybe even tell yourself that the off feeling now present in your body is the reason you shouldn't do it?

But if you go back to that original gut feeling before your brain got involved, I'll bet it felt good.

A little exciting.

Maybe even had you feeling giddy or free like you did as a kid.

That's your emotions letting you know the action to take.

And if you're experiencing that expansive feeling, it's you at your most connected.

Because being connected isn't thinking — it's feeling.

Feeling allows you to tap into your inner wisdom, and from there the next right step or action will appear and it will just feel right.

But when you introduce thinking because you're "being responsible," you can easily tip into overthinking and overanalysing.

And before you know it, you're down a rabbit hole in your brain that has you completely convinced nothing will ever work out for you.

And I know it seems logical because you don't want to get it wrong.

You don't want to fail.

But essentially, you're just not trusting yourself, which comes back to looking for certainty outside of yourself instead of tuning in.

Besides… what if I told you that you couldn't actually fuck it up anyway?